Gender has never been an issue here at the Dwarven Tavern. Girls and guys play together as freely as the gender of the characters they play. Guys play male or female characters, and girls play male or female characters freely and with no penalties or even consideration for their gender or sexual orientation. We don’t care. However, there are many things we have learned from this practice. There are those who are not used to playing with the other gender. There are also those who are very sexist in their beliefs. We don’t’ usually game with them, but they do have their own games running. To those who are female and join a predominately make game, here are a few tips to make it go smoother.
1. Don’t make an issue out of you gender. If you don’t care, they will be less likely to as well.
2. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied. Guys can get pushy. Don’t be afraid to push back, it’s just a game and if they don’t like you standing up for yourself, game elsewhere, there are a LOT of games running out there. Don’t pretend to be the weaker sex. Gamers are smart and the guys who are smart enough to game are smart enough to know that you’re lying about being the weaker sex.
3. Don’t accept condescension. If they talk down to you, again, stand up for yourself. Your mind might work differently (there is evidence that this is true biologically) but it is no less than that of any guy. People are people, male and female. If you are smart enough to game, you’re as good as any gamer.
4. Don’t be afraid to be ignorant. That is, don’t hesitate to ask questions. Even if you feel like the odd one out, or the alien, if you’re a part of the game, you deserve to have your questions answered and your confusions clarified. After all, you may be playing an alien.
5. Don’t make an issue of their gender. As previously stated, gender is completely irrelevant here, so it doesn’t matter who is what, who prefers whom, and who is becoming what. Irrelevant. It’s all about the game. Now, there might be things happening in game in which there may be found love triangles and quadrangles and all sorts of juicy drama, but outside the game you are a player whether male, female, neither, or both. A gamer is a gamer is a gamer is a gamer is a gamer.
So go out, mingle, be who you are regardless of who you are, and most importantly, have fun.
Author: Dr. Jeff Goins is the Founder and CEO of Dwarven Tavern www.dwarventavern.net. He writes lots of tombs, carves articles of stones, and publishes a wealth of knowledge. His latest books include Dwarven Tavern Short Hooks and Quick Start Story Ideas, Growing Up Haunted: The Tollgate, and Life In The Shadows.